But lately this picture seems to be fading away. The more and more I am interacting with gay people out there, the more obvious its becoming that I belonged to 1930's! People nowadays arent exactly looking for a soulmate. They are looking for a bedmate. And that also for one night. I made an account on Facebook. Usually I am not a very social kinda guy. But since a few days I have been thinkin to let out my social streak and see what is out there that the e-world has to offer. I was contacted by many people. Everyday I was added by atleast 5,6 people. But when I started talking to them.....well lets just say I was brought back to reality pretty quickly. They werent interested in who I am, what are my interests, what am I looking for and all that. They were however interested in whether I am a top or a bottom, where do I live, whats my phone number, what are my likes in bed etc. A 14 year old kid claimed that he can be my true love and we can "be together forever". A 32 year old married guy wanted to "connect" with me. People about my age were surprised that I am "gay and looking for friends"???!! Oh my god! How could such a travesty occur right?!! If I have to express my experience in one word.....I would call it a disaster!
So now I am left wondering if I will ever find another person like me. Dont get me wrong. I am not one of those "I will end up alone" drama queens! Even if I do end up alone I know I will be fine because I know I can take care of myself. But still, for a change it would have been nice to have someone who takes care of me. At the very least I had my happy-ever-after image that I could hold on to. I have heard so many times that good men are either married or gay. Well to them I would say good men are either promiscuous or..........well they are only promiscuous! :)
Oh and in case you are wondering, I am still gonna believe in people who are holding out for more than just one night stands. I just wont be looking for them anymore because I read somewhere that if you go looking for something, you dont find it. However you come face to face with it when you are least expecting it. So lets see if this really does work :)
There are plenty of guys out there that want what you want; just look at all the blogs by gay boys your age and younger. Most of the ones I see talk about wanting love, not just a one night stand.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, you have the deck stacked against you.
First, since homosexuality is strictly forbidden in Islam, I'd think that would be a strong deterrent against long term relationships for gay guys, since LTRs make it more difficult to conceal one's homosexuality.
Second, please, forgive me if I'm wrong, but I'd think gay relationships would be difficult anywhere in the Middle East. That likely leaves many guys thinking that one nighters are their only safe option for the male-on-male sexual release they desire.
Unfortunately, social networking sites attract people who just want hookups. That doesn't mean all, or even the majority of, gay guys are like that. And consider this: almost no one blinks an eye when straight guys are promiscuous.
BTW, my hubby and I will be celebrating our 17th anniversary just over a month from now, so I know it's possible to find strong, lasting gay love.
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Really?? 17 years? Congrats mate. Dats quite an achievement in today's world. Best wishes to you and your hubby.
ReplyDeleteYes you are right. Homosexuality is strictly forbidden in Islam, but I cant change who I am right? I can try to stay within limits though.
Yes gay relation in the middle east are difficult but I dont think people just opt for one night stands. I mean there have to be people who are trying for more against all odds.
I guess time will tell. But thanks alot for sharing you and your hubby's story. It kinda reinforces the faith in me that all is not lost. Thanks for dropping by dude.
I am sure you would have listened to the song "one Night Only". Sung in an entirely different manner by both Jenifer Hudson & Beyonce. The emotion what is conveyed was entirely different. In a similar manner, every thing is different just need to change the perspective.
ReplyDeleteOh yes. I haved heard both J.hud n Beyonce's rendition of one night only. Here's to hoping me perspective changes soon :)
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